This is an article taken from Everyday health Last Updated: 5/15/2015 🙂
By Lindsay Holmes, Huffington Post
I love this article because I have long term depression and chronic anxiety due to my Long term – Chronic Pain & terrible Hypersensitivities, and my poor hubby has to live them too 🙂
Emotional sensitivities are by far the hardest and what the article refers to but I personally think some of them can be transferred to apply to the Hypersensitivies that we feel from chronic illnesses such as Fibro, Me/CFS and Connective Tissue Disorders and others from the same ilk because of the neurotransmitter problems that are usually behind them. Also, if we throw in the Depressive and Anxiety Disorders aswell we end up with being, very, highly-sensitive people.
I am one of those people 🙂
Over the years my hubby, and some of my family & friends have come to understand them and what contributes towards triggering them off so they do their very best to help me avoid them.
However, there are times when I find myself almost screaming ‘for crying out loud how long have we been married?’
Yes, my poor hubby, I’m afraid that paying attention to the littler details sometimes goes awry, it’s not necessarily his fault either but he’s the one looking after me so he get’s the blame!
These points are the ones that mean the most to me from the list in the article:
4. We notice that subtle change in your tone.
6. Repetitive and loud noises are the worst.
9. Criticism is incredibly distressing.
11. We have a low pain tolerance.
Of course I look and sound like a monster!
…………… for reacting the way I do because someone left a door open, or a window and it’s really windy outside so I was exposed to the draughts that make my body hurt so much that it cries more than actually I do 😮 With no way of stopping the effects once they begin I then have no choice but to swallow meds if I can, smother self in voltarol if I can get the cap off the tube, hide under the duvet with many many layers and hopefully fall asleep!
Yep! This makes me cry a lot 😦 It is agonising.
Of course when you’re only sitting 3 feet feet away from our friends in the kitchen I’m going to complain about you talking so loudly!
Yep! this can and does make me cry sometimes due to the migraines it sets off 😮
When you can see I’m fatigued I’m naturally going to be cranky, so why do you pester me with non-specific & non-urgent things that require me to use my brain!
yep! this can and does make me cry sometimes 😮
Our friends don’t see this part off what goes on behind our closed doors and many make assumptions from the gossip telling them we’d had a fight, even when there was no fight!, so I have often looked like a bully to them. Firstly, my response is that they shouldn’t believe everything they hear as it’s nearly always way out of context due to the ‘Chinese-Whisper’ effect and secondly, it’s not like many of them bothered to enquire the real reasons behind the sudden outbursts, or care to take notice for themselves and remember that I have many difficult to control, and manage, illnesses.
Yep this has made me seek counselling and help after a mental breakdown!
Thirdly, and most importantly I remember that it is not important what other people actually think of me, I’m terse and abrupt and straight to the point, but I’m also kind, gentle and very loving to those that are real friends because they have taken the time to learn about it and have stuck around. 🙂
Yep! This makes me smile and remember I’m loved 🙂
My conclusion is this…
This article needs to printed and gaffa taped somewhere so people can read it at their own pleasure, such as in the stairwell, kitchen or hallway as that’s where people often stand for a few minutes so are likely to see it. It’s effect should be similar to that of subiliminal advertising from the 1970’s & 80’s. They are more likely to read it again next time and remember a little more each time they visit 🙂
Maybe framing it would give it an air of importance that would draw people closer to read it too because hanging in a frame usually means it is important to you.
Of course, the above are my own personal thoughts based on my own personal take/perspective of the article in relation to chronic illness and the physical/emotional sensitive natures of those of us who suffer from it 🙂
Many thanks for taking the time to read
xxx sian 🙂
Link to original article Posted: 04/30/2015 7:00 am EDT Updated: 04/30/2015 9:59 am EDT
in Huffington Post by Lindsay Holmes – http://www.huffingtonpost.com – understanding highly sensitive people